Rising number of women earn more than mates
This is so true on a thousand levels. Chocolate Snowflake wears the corduroys in our relationship. Keep in mind that she has a college degree as well, so any chick I am dating will be making more money than me. Plus I like to ‘date up’ anyhoo. I refuse to be around any broad that has education credentials like mine.
This situation certainly has been true for the last two generations within the African American community. Now they are trying to push this lifestyle onto whites who have every reason to push back. What people are recognizing now is that there is no longer a middle class. Everyone is now part of the ‘working class’.
This means shit like no more vacations abroad or otherwise. They have even been marketing a term to describe your stay at home vacations – staycations. While that is a cute marketing device, it also tells me that the quality of life is being dramatically eroded if people can’t afford to literally change their perspectives.
I’m all for women being recognized for their contribution to the workforce. They can even bring home twice my salary if their boss will allow it and I will stay home to feed the babies, er, cats. I’m just leyting everyone know now that I want an apron to fit a 350lb man and not some little shit. This is the future internets. Next up, lactating male nipples.
Dallas . . . read #3 and #4.
http://propertalks.com/2009/10/20/five-reasons-female-rappers-are-out-of-style/
^ Vee, 😀
DP, as long as everybody gets to spend the money made, I really don’t care who’s making it. If I one day make more $$ than my man I’m not gonna start treating him like crap and reminding him who brings home the bacon all the damn time. I think that’s what freaks alot of (black) men out about being with a successful woman. They don’t wanna feel expendable. But in this day and age, two incomes on any level are better than one, so as long as he’s not effing my credit up and he’s edumacated, I don’t care.
I think they do make aprons ur size, tho. And they have a fake boob harness thing that the mom can put pumped milk into and you can wear to nurse the baby. Not the same as real lactating nipples, but it’s a start.
The problem becomes that some women will throw it in a dudes face…the same women who can’t reconcile the ability to be independent with “not needing a man”. It’s the American way…people can’t wait to have more money so they can tell other people to fuck off when they feel like it.
whoaaaaaaaaaaaaa don’t know about guys breastfeeding dp that is kinda strange. every year i take a staycation usuallly the first 2 weeks of the new year. i beat the shit out of my liver get in contact with friends and fam. eat drink and be merry like a motherfucker. i have dated women who made more money than me i have no problem with it. things are going be the same i am going pay for the dates. for trips and things like that just when she want something that cost alot well she can buy it herself. also when she wants to do shit i don’t want to do like certain plays i will go but she will buy the tickets. i am not going go broke to keep your ass happy when you make more cash than me. that does not even make sense
Angela wouldn’t fux with me off the bat because of my lack of education (tho’ I do appreciate you fux’n with me on the internets)M. Lack of credentialed education for men, especially Black males is the lynchpin for the new economic disparity.
Ladies, if you meet a busdriver or a construction worker who respects his mother and you I would advise you to consider that manM if for nothing else, at least his dental benefits.
DP, I didn’t say he needed degrees. I just mean the dude needs to be smart. And for me, respecting his moms and me ain’t enough (though it’s a great start). I’m a literature nerd, so the guy needs to not be intimidated by things like readings full of white folks and NPR. And if a dude only reads the type of books that are sold on folding tables in Times Square and 125th, then we prAli won’t work out.
Plenty of people have degrees (from Ivy Leagues, no less) but they have no intellectual curiosity.
DP, You’re one of the smartest dudes on the internets, and I wouldn’t fux with you on the internets if I wouldn’t in real life (not in a way that would make Choc Snow cut me, of course). Doesn’t matter if you have a piece of paper to say so, you’re quite the educated dude. 🙂
Angela,
Thx my lil’ sis and I agree that your mate shouldn’t be intimidated by literature but can you blame him if he gets a lil’ queasy around a lot of white folks? Nobody loves white more than me and even I have to make sure I know where the exits are when the numbers tip out of control. You never know when someone in the crowd might yell out “Lynch him!” and then Wham(no George Michael) there I am leading off a drop for Crispus Attucks’ week.
Good drop, DP!
Ang, whadup! VEe, whadup! Good looks on that link, ha!
There are far too many points that can come from a situation like this. I think a lot of cats wouldn’t mind passing over the trousers, but would be too scared of possible outcomes (loss of identity, becoming slightly subservient, etc.). The problem, also, isn’t so much if a dude could/couldn’t date up, but it’s about if that woman would, in turn, view it as her dating down. Which, I believe a majority would.
If a man makes the most money & considers himself the “boss”, I wouldn’t expect a woman to feel any different. & generally, men lack the amount of humility to let a woman run what he does, which that whole scenario would undoubtedly entail, if even only a little bit. A man is usually defined by what he does, like it or not. Who’s opinion counts, though, is what ultimately matters.
As long as the set up is accepted by both parties, it shouldn’t be a problem. After all, isn’t a relationship a team effort? Is Fisher any less important than Black Mamba, when it comes time to when the title?
I think the “teamwork” aesthetic is suffering in the shift of power. If we are working together towards a common goal, as a team, no player is more or less important than the next, in theory @ least.
I think women are more responsible, generally speaking, so I don’t mind letting her helm the ship. Gives me more time to focus & make sure my shits in order, that way I don’t have to worry about being patronized & treated anything less than equally.
What up Tony Grands! I think you dropped the money quote of these comments talking about not minding to pass the pants because it would give you more time to focus on getting your endeavors tight: I think women are starting to do better than men because today’s more and more credentialed workplace requires so damn much focus! Some men suffer more than others from the male birthright that is ADD, but none of our hunting skills can overcome the bias in favor of women’s patient gathering abilities in the age of the spreadsheet, the grant proposal, the business plan!