Editor’s note: BILLY SUNDAY doesn’t have too many friends at XXLMAG dot com because he writes shit like this…
Since February is on the wrap up I thought I should squeeze in a drop or two for Black History Month. It’s not like you humps are gonna open a book anytime this millennium anyhoo. Here’s a quick question for some of you wannabe hardbody clowns posing behind your iMacs. How many of you dudes are gonna keep it really real and marry a Black woman? Seriously, by choice? I don’t mean like if you had no choice which most of you broke cats will understand, I mean if you had rapper cake or lottery scrilla and you could chose any ethnicity you wanted. How many of you would still eff with a “sista”?!?
Paul Wall had a choice and he chose a Black chick. A thick Black chick at that, not even some video ho and you know he has access to them broads too. I give Paul Wall credit for that even if they end up getting divorced when he finally gets away from the phoney baloney Swishahouse Asylum Atlantic paper and steps up to some Interscope Sony Universal bread. The main thing is that he kept it real from the gate. Nobody can take that away from him. One of the reasons that Paul Wall was able to be a man and give vows to a Black woman is because he wasn’t “bitchmade”. I know a lot of you dudes flagrantly exploit that language around these comments sections and I wonder if y’all know what it means. A bitchmade dude is someone that was raised by their moms and/or their grandmoms without a male figure present.
It’s easy to spot bitchmade dudes in the comments sections because they are the types of people that have a hard time accepting truth without emotion. They also be the first cats to shout out expletives and other derogatory remarks when they can’t keep the pace in a dialogue or debate. It’s not their fault either but they were taught how to frame their communications in the style of a woman. Let’s understand the difficulty that a woman faces when trying to raise children by herself. She doesn’t have too many options for economic stability in front of her so her morals and values when they are related to money will generally be loose and desperate. Get rich by any means necessary or die trying is what these women instill in their children. So is it any wonder that someone trying to break into the entertainment business will do whatever he thinks the corporate bosses want him to do?
I’m gonna stop killing these rappers that spit utter claptrap on these mixtapes because some of them have grown up watching their moms put mad lotion on wild niggas ballsachs just to put a peanut butter sardine sandwich inside of their Jansports. That shit is really real right there, but you never hear that shit on no rap song. You never hear a rap song where they big up fathers either. Other than that homo-erotic shit that Weezy has with Baby. Maybe there’s one or two songs out there but most of the shit is always on some ‘Dear Momma’ shit. This is why I give Paul Wall his props because he is definitely gonna be a father to his children. So when his kids get grown and they have to choose between being shitbags that will do anything for paper, or being grown folks who can negotiate the moral responsibility that comes with being an adult they will have the foundation in place to make that choice. There ain’t nothing wrong with being grown.
Tell me I’m lying.
amen.
except i gotta defend real men who were raised by real women. not all boys raised solely by moms respond in this fashion, not all of them had to watch their mothers do desperate things to provide for them. granted they likely saw moms actively dating, but i know real men that grew up in single parent households.
as a female product of a single parent household, i made a choice to marry and raise my (in the future, but currently imaginary with awesome names) children with two parents. my mom did a great job, but i’d like to afford my children the opportunity to experience all the love and benefits that i got times two.
to all my “real woman raised” real men from back home (i knew zero kids that had married parents growing up) that chose to do right and are strong and thriving…..i love yall. the rest of you “bitchmade” niggas can eat a dick. i don’t accept excuses or give passes to people who chose not to mature and learn to be real men. i don’t give a blue damn whatcha momma did. that bitch was trifling. now you following in her footsteps. “either get with it or get lost.” –weezy fheg baby.
^ co-signs
Too many excuses. Every person alive comes from a dysfunctional family. Even privileged kids have problems.
I agree with Sasha, learn the lessons and keep it moving. Stop blaming everyone else for your issues. You know when you are doing something that is wrong….man (and woman) up.
dallas on a roll!!!! …..there is no such thing as a functional family……
what is your definitiion of thick?
yeah SKEETS i’d put her at prolly two biscuits past thick. but she’s his. that’s what matters.
I was raised by my momma and she hated all that emotional bitching and crying. If my voice goes up an octave she’ll rip me for whining and I once saw her punch a grown man in the chest. She wasn’t about bitch-made dudes…but I can say I grew up with some.
Also…shorty qualifies as “Thickums”
whats up with reposting old shit
REAL TALK!
Wordage…I had both parents until I was 16, but it didn’t matter because they hated each other so much we were dysfunctional anyway. Mom stayed at one end of the house and Pops stayed at the other.
I wish they would have forgot their Panamanian pride and separated sooner, things would have jumped off alot different. for One, I probably wouldn’t have hit the streets as hard as I did. There alot of aspects of my personality that I can attribute to the way I grew up, good thing is I am mature enough to realize that I can change them…..
What do you think of this? http://www.blacktown.net/
The Women’s Liberation movement of the 1970s is what has caused this ongoing relationship problem.
Welfare also mandated that in order for women to be eligible for welfare she must not have evidence of a man staying in the home.
So, this is what started the “baby daddy” social problem.
Gangster rap music is all about the anger and frustration of a generation of boys raised with no father figure.
And the black church has been telling black women: THE ONLY MAN YOU NEED IS JEEEESUS…BLAH, BLAH.
…THE ONLY MAN THAT LOVES YOU IS JEEEESUS…BLAH, BLAH.
FORGET ABOUT ALL THOSE OTHER MEN….JEEEESUS IS THE ONLY MAN FOR YOU….BLAH, BLAH.
Thus, the black church is doing the same thing they were supposed to do during slavery: DESTROY THE IMPORTANCE OF THE BLACK MAN’S AUTHORITY!!!
strongblackman, i’m going to have to say that you are not looking far back enough for the roots of the “baby daddy social problem”.
the factors within the black community which have always caused our struggle have not changed much. when what was outside the community became more important than what was within it, it was done for black people. pride became grossly mutilated until it came to mean something else altogether.
i think this all began with forced desegregation. i cite that as the point where the great majority of black people started trying to do what they couldn’t. it became frustrating and began the states of apathy and bullshit we have today (which are reflected within the average black familial unit).
so, i agree with you to a point. no, women’s lib wasn’t for black women. no, FDR wasn’t thinking of the black family when he showcased the food stamp. but we would have been fine as a people if we weren’t trying so hard to attain what wasn’t meant for us.
it goes back to mutilated pride. black men today have a different type of pride from black men of yesterday. black men of yesterday had too much pride to abandon their women and children, and black men today have too much pride to commit to the struggle required for their care. they are ashamed of being broke, spat upon and, frequently, undereducated, and rather than trying to lift themselves and their families out of that sort of cyclic sledge, they try (and fail) to cut corners, blinging and posturing all the while.
as for the black church, it is what it has always been: a coping mechanism. kids have to be raised somehow. if the way to do that is to tell the legions of single mothers that they can do it without a man, then that is what’s going to be said on the pulpit.
That’s some real talk, D.P.
Those brothers over at blacktown.net have their finger on the pulse.
In the 1990s black women complained about the quality and shortage of blackmen who made the same income that black women made with their high “education” and “high” career….
But as soon as the blackman starts his own movement, BLACK WOMEN ARE STILLL COMPLAINING AND BITCHING!!!!
In otherwords, black women are behaving exactly like they have been “trained” to do: BEMOAN THE CRUCIFICTION OF THE BLACK MAN; AND NOT CELEBRATE HIS RISE TO POWER!!!
THUS, BLACK WOMEN REMAIN THE WHITE MAN’S MAMMY SLAVE LIKE SHE HAS BEEN SINCE SLAVERY!!!!
What have black women done with her freedom and her billions?!?!? What movements has she started?!?!?!?
NONE!!!!!!!!!!!
but PW is guilty of said “get rich or die trying attitude” this blog speaks of…him choosing a thick sista ain’t got jacksquat to do with nathan imo. Heck most rappers wives are FAR from stereotypical video girls, word to LL’s wife of 20 years plus..